Although my son is now in his teen years, I really don’t feel like it is every too late for parenting help/advise in making sure my child has all the tools necessary for life.
This book was written to help any adult, that has an influence on a growing boy, navigate a good way of raising a Christian boy in this day and time, with the back-up of scientific viewpoints. This is not just a “Christian’s thoughts” book, but factual information as well based on science…the bible meets This book also talks about how boys are uniquely wired and very obviously different from girls.
The first section of the book is an introduction about joining together to raise strong, loving Christian sons. This part of the book is about each of the author’s telling their story and how this book came to be.
Part 1 of the book is about the inside story regarding understanding the divine design at work in our boy’s lives. This part of the book has four chapters. The first chapter talks about how our boys need a new approach to boyhood and how in the upcoming reading material, there will be ways for our boys to learn to grow and thrive as young Christian men. This chapter also has a list of statistics (see photo below paragraph) that I didn’t even realize the difference between boys and girls. The listed statistics, which the books says is just the tip of the iceberg, where rather disturbing. Chapter 2 goes more into detail about how boys really are different from girls, other than the obvious physical characteristics that we can see, and how they also develop differently. Chapter 3 and 4 are about what a boy learns from his mom and what he learns from his dad and how those roles are important, both of them!
Part 2 of the book is putting it to work, regarding our son’s journey into manhood. The first couple of chapters are talking about building a sense of honor in our sons and building character and discipline. The next chapter talks about how boys and girls process emotions differently, i.e. boys tend to need to express emotions physically more than girls do or boys tend to take longer to attach words to feelings, like “love”. This part of the books also talks about how that saying “Boys/men hide their feelings and don’t express them” is how boys/men ARE and we need to acknowledge that and not devalue their way of being. I am also learning that there is no WRONG way to “do” emotions, which is hard for a lot of people to understand. It talks about and explains (8) different methods of helping our boys process their emotions. The next chapter talks about developing a healthy sexuality in boys and young men. This chapter talks about “manhood hunger” and how a boy really needs a male figure in his life because boys sometimes just don’t want to share “guy stuff” with “MOM”. With that said, this chapter has definitely taught me to NOT take offense for when my teenage son tells me that he just can’t tell me about “guy stuff”, if he does…he may just need a male figure to feel comfortable to express himself and after reading this book, I am OK with that and you should be too! Helping our boys through school is another key to successful manhood. This part of the book ends with the journey of faith and a new vision of Christian manhood. This chapter talks about how we CAN’T put OUR faith on our boys. They will have their own trail to follow, as everyone’s relationship with God is different and their own! We can only lead them in the right direction and have faith and pray!
At the end of each chapter there is a “NEXT STEPS” section (see below from one of the chapters) that is intended to help you identify practical ways to act on what you’ve just learned and taking deliberate steps to help your son thrive and grow right now.
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